It's great to be hovering in my mid 40's and still have friends turning 40. Last night we pushed outside our comfort zone and embraced the fun and festivities at a dear friend's 40th birthday party. It was a surprise, at a restaurant downtown with a 9:00 reservation. My sweet family has trained me to eat dinner at 6....9 was a bit outside of my zone but I didn't blink an eye when this invitation arrived. Of course we would be there!
Not all the couples knew each other but at our age we can make new friends and play nice in the sandbox, right? Or at least most of us can.
We are friends with 4 other couples and we affectionately call our little group by the first letters of each of our last names. The birthday was for the D. We have children in school together, we socialize together, we laugh a lot together, and we really can say just about anything within this group and it stays in the "vault".
One of the party goers with a last name that starts with something other than our 4 letters (there are two A's) said to me and one of the C's, "There is something a little OFF about you guys (meaning the five couples). Are you sure you aren't swingers?"
I nearly fell of my seat. Remember, I'm the one that can barely make it through Fifty Shades of you know what because it's too graphic. How on earth could I bring myself to that? I love and adore these couples. I like the husbands as much as the wives. We help each other with our kids, we look out for each other. We don't judge one another on what we wear or where we live. We are friends. Not Swingers.
End of story.
I was dumbfounded and laughed hysterically. There was so much more I should have said. I am most struck by the word "off". That just isn't sitting well with me. What would you have said?